Should schools shoulder all the responsibility

Our children spend an awful amount of time at school from the age of 3 upwards. Their teachers have just as much influence on their lives as us parents do. Some might say even more so.
So, where do our responsibilities as parents end and the schools begin?

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You hear many things on the playground like "oh they should be teaching them this", "they should be able to do this by now, why aren't they teaching them it" etc. Well, why can't you show your kids? After all, you are their parents, you and your husband/partner/Friday night oops I did again/baby machine decided to have 3.2 seconds of fun and create a child, why can't you at least teach said child a few things?

The people that I hear say these things just seem to want to get their children back home and shove them in front of a tablet or computer so they can go back to doing whatever it is they're doing. Our children need to learn the important life skills from us, they need to be taught how to behave, how to be polite, how not to eat daddy's last Oreo, by us! 


I read recently that a school in Portugal had had enough of parents blaming them for things so they put up a poster that outlined a few points that I think some parents in my son's school need to take advice from. It read,

"Dear parents
We would like to remind you that magic words such as hello, please, you’re welcome, I’m sorry, and thank you, all begin to be learned at home.

It’s also at home that children learn, to be honest, to be on time, diligent, show friends their sympathy, as well as show the utmost respect for their elders and all teachers.

Home is where they learn to be clean, not talk with their mouths full, and how/where to properly dispose of garbage.

Home is also where they learn to be organised, to take good care of their belongings, and that it’s not ok to touch others.

Here at school, on the other hand, we teach language, math, history, geography, physics, sciences, and physical education.

We only reinforce the education that children receive at home from their parents"

I think this poster should be put up in all schools. There are an alarming number of young children who at such an early stage have no manners at all and it is the parents that have to take the blame for that in my opinion. We have sone behaviour issues with our son at home and he does test us, but he is always very polite and courteous at school or in public. I think he saves his naughtiness up for being at home.

Does anyone else agree with me that this poster should be put up in schools?

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  1. What a great read and so right. Many parents decide to shift all responsibilities to teachers as soon as their children go to school. Completly wrong of course education begins at home and always should teachers teach abc etc but without parents backing it up it's a waste of time brilliant post mate.

    1. Thanks for the comment Nige. Its so frustrating hearing parents at school. I'm proud to teach my kids the right way to behave and i think every parent should want to

  2. Nail on the head! Great post. We have this discussion at home regularly. Our children are polite because we reinforce it all the time. But when doing the school run and parents don't say 'thank you' or 'excuse me' it's no wonder the kids don't. I'm a firm believer that education starts at home. Paren't need to stop passing the buck.

  3. I saw the poster and I agree with it. School and home are so separated, when in fact they should work as a team - and used to far more. There are so many things you can teach your child at home about tolerance, compassion, manners, instead people teach them that school is somewhere that 'THEY' work and 'THEY' aren't doing it right and we should complain to 'THEM' and talk unkindly about 'THEM' at home. And then the same parents complain when their children have no respect for authority or rules :D

  4. Definitely agree with this! It doesn't take much to teach your children manners and respect. My son is not even two yet, but he knows if he wants something he must say please and thank you, and he can put his own rubbish in the bin and take his plate out to the kitchen. These were things I was taught by my parents, so why wouldn't I teach my own children. My friend is a reception teacher to 30 children and I know all about the difficulties she faces every day, without having to teach kids basic manners as well! Great post #TriumphantTales

  5. Parents do need to take more responsibility for how their children behave, how they talk to others and right and wrong. These are things parents should be teaching children from a very early age.

  6. Yes! Absolutely. It's lazy parents who pass the buck and blame school. It's up to us as parents to teach them these things from an early age. This is a great poster and should definitely be widely shared. Thanks for linking up to #TriumphantTales, hope you'll come back on Tuesday :)

  7. I agree that it is the parents job to teach basic everyday skills and manners. I think there is too much pressure on schools nowadays but i think the whole PC thing as gone too soft so whereas there used to be strict rules, schools are being a bit more lenient which in turn gets people blaming said schools. But really it is the parents that need to be the ones who are to blame and do something to help their kids!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back on Tuesday!

  8. As an ex early years professional ( child minder) I know that parents and professionals have to work closely in partnership for a child to be successful #mondaystumble@_karendennis

  9. I totally agree with you! Parents should teach their children life skills and acceptable social behaviour. School is there to teach them the academic lessons. If they can't use the toilet properly or throw their rubbish away properly, schools are wasting time correcting parents' mistakes when they should actually be teaching them to read, write, do maths and everything else!

  10. Absolutely! Our charge is exactly as you describe, teachers and educators round out the knowledge and enforce the empathy we foster with them. Great read! #MondayStumble

  11. Spot on! It's called being a parent and those parents that don't understand this are not worthy of the title.


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