What if your child said they were gay?

I have been asked a few times in the last five years since I have had kids, "what will you do/say if your child is gay?"

My answer would simply have to be nothing. Why would I do anything or say anything? My only question would be is, "are you happy?" If the answer is yes, then I'm happy. I think nowadays being gay isn't something that is as taboo/frowned upon/discriminated against as much as it used to be. It's still there as there are plenty of idiots out there but I don't think it is as bad. I think people are becoming more open and understanding to people around them. Being a straight man though means I have nothing really to base this on 

Am I right in thinking this? Are there any people out there who are gay who think this is true? Or is it still something that you get discriminated against for?
I don't think that being gay should even be a label. As long as your happy then that should be the main thing. Sadly, some governments, religious groups etc don't see this as the case.

Ever since Joseph was born over 5 years ago, I've been asked a few times, "do you worry about him coming home one day and saying he's gay". My response has always been, no. I would also have the same response if Alice came home and said the same thing. I do hope that if my children are gay, that they aren't scared to tell me. 

I think most parents or parents to be, think about it and would probably say "I don't want them to be gay". I don't think this is for any homophobic reason, I think this is because they don't want to miss out on grandchildren. Not that being gay stops you from having kids. 

We don't and won't raise our children to show disrespect to anyone of any race, gender or sexual orientation, yet I know some parents will/do whether they realise it or not and that saddens me. 

Are there any parents out there who had children that told them they were gay? How did you feel? Did you already know they were gay? Is it something that as a parent you can tell?

At this young age, I don't know whether my children will be straight or gay, I know it isn't a choice and as long as they are happy in whatever there doing then I'll be one happy dad.


  1. Nice post. Even though it is something spoken about a lot these days and is becoming more and more accepted, I am aware of some small minded people who are still homophobic. I think as a society we're moving in the right direction but still a very long way from it being as normal as being heterosexual.

    1. Thanks!Hopefully my childrens generation will be more accepting. It will never be truly normal while religion still claims it to be wrong i think

  2. Why do people ask you that question? How bizzare! Like you, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I remember how hard it was for my gay friends when we weren't in our early teens. They didn't dare come out because they would have been battered. Thankfully we live in a different world now, only 15 years later.

  3. Great post. As far as we are concerned Fidget & Little Man will be whatever they turn out to be because that will be the norm for them. We are raising them to have open minds, to be accepting of themselves and others.

  4. I've asked my friend this. But only because her husband is an evangelical Christian. She said she'd support her kids but her husband would try to "cure" them. She's since converted and so I'm not sure if her answer would be different now.
    Oliver knows about different family dynamics and that two men can fall in love and have children. Obviously not the mechanics of it at age 4. But he knows it's totally normal and that people love who they love.


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